And then the Big Hug

This is father’s day and the need to hug dad is here. So before we go deep into the hug, there is the need to remember those reasons for which the same has to be done. I have come up with my own collection of things. It might not be something which can be related to, for most of my readers, but I am going to stay with this list of six things before the big hug happens on the father’s day.

The Sympathy: It is quite a lot, even though not that much for me. Simona the Kitty knows his sympathy and tries to make a cute fact to take advantage of it, but kitchen and the food was never anywhere near being his department. I have got a little bit of that from him even though mutual sympathy was never in the cards. But a good number of local people did get the selective sympathy effect.

The History: The knowledge of history has been nicely passed on. There has been a lot of talk about history as well as politics, which did define my path for the future, even though some relatives managed to interfere and divert my road to the future. Still, the history which was learned earlier has remained in my mind, and has helped me to make sure that I took my second degree in History only.

The Curiosity: He thinks that I always have problems, and due to the same, he keeps checking. One day, he looked at my grammar sentence which said “I do not sleep at night” as part of my grammar studies, and without checking the rest of the available information on tenses, he decided to take action based on my sleeplessness. That grand curiosity had given me some special attention, even though not that much of a fair one.

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The Self-righteousness: This one has been there all the time, and on display. Well, it has helped me to remain a good person, because I knew that there was no other way to make an impression, because the genius tag of the childhood was fast disappearing and had almost gone by the time I got admission for the Science-Computer group for Plus Two. So, I had to be the good person while the others were to be the achievers. That helped me to not go into the wilderness of evil.

The Disbelief: Yes, I have inherited the same disbelief, even though I haven’t got that ability to trust relatives or old friends who speak sweet. I have been careful with people, and it has helped me not to jump into any pits of hopelessness. As time progressed, I have turned out to be more of a non-believer in people than anyone I know about. I might have been a bigger loser if Ihad believed in people, but I have turned out to be a lesser one with this special skill that I inherited.

The Preferences: His love for the engineers and doctors have meant that I learnt to love those people who were different, and I decided to get rid of all Science and Mathematics because I realized that my right place was not with them. I belonged with the creative thinkers and not those people who worked only on logic. I realized that I should be human first and that matters. Well, most of my relatives don’t think so as they are always after counting the money in job or in marriage – but I understood 😀 #HugYourDad

This father’s day, I am expressing my love towards my dad by participating in the #HugYourDad activity at BlogAdda in association with Vicks.

***The image used in this blog post is from the page of activity itself.

TeNy

Presence and Absence of Hug

The season of the mother’s day is over, and this is time period calls for the other parent. As time has passed after the day for the loving mother, one can recollect that it was one of the more popular times of contests and there was a lot of sharing related to mother on Facebook and Twitter. It is certain that a lot of hugs were received by mothers all around the world. A hug is the best gift you can give your dad too on this father’s day.

It is one’s duty to be thankful to the parents, and every religion has a provision for being respectful and loving towards parents – no matter how much the world has advanced, and up-to what extent the modernity, competition and the brutality of science and technology have taken over, the relationship remains the same in its core. Indian culture has had a great place for the same, and it remains one of the most beautiful things.

There would be many reasons for hugging one’s father, and I am sure that there will be some in my life too even if not too many, but the one big reason about which I want to talk about here is of a lot of significance. The reason is actually the absence of the result itself. It is simple – there was never a hug, not one which I can remember about. It is a case of the complete absence of the hug. It is the prolonged absence of something which creates the desire for that thing, right? So it is the lack of presence of the hug.

Yes, it was missing and no notice could find it. I used to search for it a lot during my childhood days, but neve really found it. Mom had tried a lot to find it for me, but as time passed, I have refused its strength all together; I kept saying, no hugs and not touching. I apologize to Munna Bhai on this – there have been no “Jadoo Ki Jhappi”; no magic there. Circuit might not like that either, but that is the truth.

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As I grew up, I used to wonder why people hug, until I watched Munnabhai MBBS. It became further clear at that time, but that never really explained why I should give anybody a hug. I have remained hug-free even though I haven’t really boasted about that. I have often wondered how I would have managed not to hug if I had ever been a tennis player – it would have been declared an act of shame and also disrespectful to fellow players by some fans.

Well, dad has been hug-free for quite a long time too, and that is a relief. If he was hugging someone else, that would made me wonder why I didn’t do that yet. I wanted to do a hug when I get a job, but that doesn’t seem to be happening in this birth. I wanted to do that on the day of my wedding, but that seems to be too far away a thing in life. Then there is the father’s day which remains the last hope.

A hug will be a nice option for this father’s day, especially for us jobless people who are in no position to buy something for the parents. Yes, there is hope in those contest wins, but we can’t really have the vanity to think that we will win them all, right? Not even with the First Come First Serve basis with such a slow and miserable internet connection. I would say that a hug is a nice option for me – and there is also some variety associated with it 😀 #HugYourDad

This father’s day, I am expressing my love towards my dad by participating in the #HugYourDad activity at BlogAdda in association with Vicks.

***The image used in this blog post is from the page of activity itself.

TeNy