Year 2015: Story so Far

There were many happenings in the year 2015, and a lot of them haven’t been positive. There is the problem of seeing so many people who can’t respect the opinions of others when we are blogging. When outside the blogging, there is the problem of facing the relatives who ask the two big questions, which all of us Indians already know about. Life has been mediocre outside the blogging world or even worse, but as far as blogging is concerned, there were some positives throughout this year, most of them for which I am thankful to BlogAdda.

The best incident related to blogging happened to me in this March, in the month of my birthday itself, with winning the pass for the India Today Conclave contest, my first win from BlogAdda and it was huge. My post The Vision of a Lost Bat won the grand prize and my other post The World Remade was granted the runner-up prize. This was also the first time that I won anything for a post featuring the Vampire Bat. It was a perfect inspiration for me to blog at that time.

Then in May, there was the #DilKiDealOnSnapDeal activity from BlogAdda which made me feel that I could win more than one, and that my earlier victory was not a fluke. This second win made me feel better because it was something which I shared from my memories, and it is also something that I still cherish doing. My post Through the Sands of Time provided me my next win and it has also given me my first badge from BlogAdda. There is something about the badges from BlogAdda; with out names added to it, they look perfect.

Then in July, there the crashing into the winners of #CrashThePepsiIPL Contest. It was an interesting contest with different phases, and my post, Favourites of the List won in one of the phases there. I believe that it was in July that there was the #StressFreeMom Contest which had me winning again for the post All the Stress in the World and then again with #YoursHonestly Contest with my post A Letter on Integrity. It was the season of good things coming together at least in my blogging life.

JSW #WillOfSteel activity was one of my favourite contests, and I consider it as an honour and privilege to have participated in it. That was a nice escape from writing reviews and reading what the blind fans have to write, because what we were supposed to do were to support inspirational people who have made a difference in the world with their will of steel; the kind which India can be proud about. I actually posted about two such individuals on two different posts, and it is my post Tea for Inspiration which won the prize from BlogAdda.

Then there is the recent win which came at a time when I was hoping to win something interesting, and my post Colours and Variety had a chance there. I was thinking that I was losing my strength, and then there was BlogAdda with this prize. Bed Bath More Paint Me Wild activity was where I wrote about what I actually wanted with my home in a completely personal manner, and it felt good that this one won a prize which is bigger than the other ones in the second half of the year.

I also have to share about my other post The Undead Book of Life because I won movie souvenirs from the movie The Path of Zarathustra, once again through an activity from BlogAdda. I love this one a lot because this is a movie which I really wanted to watch, but it didn’t release here. So, I decided to be happy with at least those souveniors. In a world where there are abusers and haters who will never accept the opinions of others, one can only be happy about BlogAdda providing us with such opportunities and rewards, making 2015 a better year.

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.

***The images used in this blog posts are from the activity pages at BlogAdda.

TeNy

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Hypocrites at Home

When someone say #ShareTheLoad, there will always be people who try to make use of the situation just to claim to have done so and show themselves to the others as bloody righteous people, but in reality, they are not doing any favours at home and are only making things worse. So never judge a family and its members by the cover, because sharing is something which should come from the heart and not for showing off.

Our nation has its own share of hypocrites who have that kind of attitude towards their wife and children, and let me assure you that I have known too many of them. They are too much worried about what the society thinks about them and keeps on pretending that they are great family men, always helping the lady when someone else has come to the house. The interest in cooking and washing just reaches a new high when someone else is at home.

#ShareTheLoad – it comes to them when someone from outside the family is looking. They also make great speeches about how women should be treated so well and why one needs to be part of the household work. It will be that kind of a speech which makes the guest feel that the lady is lucky to have this special gentleman as a husband. But no, it is just about words, and it is available without much work, and acting comes naturally to some people who deserve the Oscars of life.

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There are men who don’t help their wives at all with absolutely no share, some others who do help, and the last category is the most disgusting of them all – the hypocrites who wants to make everyone believe that they do, and makes an impression of a Holy Family which lives in that house. They might continue to do so as they can, but the truth is that they can’t fool everyone all the time, and sooner or later karma is going to get to them and deliver the much needed poetic justice.

One has to wonder why some people have to pretend to be what they are not. It is clear that they have no respect or care for the other family members. Well, they can continue to say that it is not their department, and still claim to do so in front of others. It is their department; actually it is the department of everyone in the house and there comes a responsibility towards making a home and it is not done by one person who do so much work when another person spends all the time in leisure.

It is not enough that they are completely useless at home and wanders around being unworthy of running a family, that they return to trouble those who do the work correctly. They even claim that the work is not done properly, but in their mind, knows that they can’t do it even in a half-good manner. Yes, they say that it is not their department, but they should try to claim some place in that department too, because home should be where the heart should be! The house is the department of everyone, even the pet cats thinks so!

Those who can’t do that will be better people if not married. They become terrible examples to people around them as well as the new generation. It is simple – if they can’t do the family any good, they shouldn’t be married. This is also applicable to those who only listens to their brothers and sisters. Better be a selfish loner or a hypocrite who lives alone rather than become someone who is a curse to the home. One won’t have claims for making a better home if all that the person can do is to bring troubles and think only about one’s own life! Don’t be a hypocrite or selfish brute, just #ShareTheLoad

I am writing for the #ShareTheLoad activity at BlogAdda.com in association with Ariel.

TeNy

Sharing the Big Load

We have heard a lot that sharing is caring. But to what extent do we do that or rather put a limit on the same? The one place where we seem to think about that more than anything else is at those torrent sites! Then there is the kind of food which can’t be finished alone and we call for help. It is where the world of sharing has thrived better than most of the other occasions, but in this world where sharing first brings Facebook to the mind, there is the need to share further, far away from the world of modernity.

Sharing the load never naturally comes, because it needs some effort especially when someone is spending some random leisure time – men have that tendency to think it not as their job. As far as marriage is concerned, the biggest thing that it has achieved is to inspire Havells advertisements which comes up with fake advertisements talking about respect, but nothing really about sharing or having concern for the other half. People just want it easy, and not share the loads – it is just selfish nature.

There is too much inequality in houses when it is about the housework, and men and women need to #ShareTheLoad especially when both are working. It is not something like Interstellar which talks about something and people have smoke coming out of brains. This is just simple and should come right out of basic love and care for the other half. It is an act of love and concern and not something which can be taught.

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Well, marriage is supposed to be halves becoming one, but how can that happen if there are no two equal halves? A half and a quarter in not one, and so in simple terms, it is not a good reflection of married life. It is the twenty-first century and the only way to equality seems to be reservation for some people. Then some people need reminders, and this need to be reminded of equality is another ridiculous situation.

If someone has to do the whole thing alone, it is a lot of work, but sharing can be fun. When not married, help the mother or sister. The mother will need it a lot as she is getting older and the father might still belong to a generation where women were not working and they were used to doing work at home only. He might find it difficult to follow, but not us who are beyond the same. It is up-to us to show a good example to our children also.

What we need to look out for is the future, and nowadays when both the man and the wife are working, there needs to be a lot of sharing, depending on the timings of their work – sometimes it might be the male who works more and at other times, it could be the female, and they need to share according to the demands of the time as there will be days when one of them will have some extra time and can make a better use of the same in this busy world. If one of them won’t have work for a period of time, it is easier for just one – otherwise no.

I would say that a certain amount of work at home can be some fun as long as the dose is kept in the right quantity, and for that, one has to be ready to #ShareTheLoad. Otherwise there would be the delay which can spoil the day for not just one person, but for the whole family. When we get the work get done faster, there will be time left to spend with each other, and the relationship only gets better – it is the success of the family as a unit! Now, lets just ask more people to #ShareTheLoad.

I am writing for the #ShareTheLoad activity at BlogAdda.com in association with Ariel.

TeNy