Joy of Being Together

There are many forms of happiness in one’s life, as they become the other side of that coin which has sadness on one side. One of them is that bliss of being together with your loved ones – friends, relatives, and all those who find a nice place in your heart. The need for people in our life is a certainty, and we need some good support to remain motivated through the dark times – after all, life is not a soft bed of flowers on which you can just lie down and enjoy.

This brings me back to a memory from some time ago. We had shifted to our old home again, and it was a return to the past. But there were still not many friends around there, and couldn’t find most of my childhood friends there, as most of them were having jobs somewhere else, and a few others couldn’t be contacted at all. I was lonely there and the scope was there to be eternally alone unless there was a nice twist to come.

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Then one day, I had a Facebook message from an old friend of mine who stay near my present home to which we have returned after a gap of around fifteen years. We had studied together for the tution classes, and it was good to hear from him. He was getting married and told me that he will be coming to visit me. I told him to come whenever he wanted because I wasn’t much hopeful about it – this had happened before with nobody really coming and I was pessimistic.

But that was not the case this time. As I was going through my normal pessimistic model, he came to my home on the very next holiday. We talked about a lot of things, like how he was going through the difficult times in his life, especially with facing people without a job, and it was easy to relate for me because it was the same on this side too. Society wants all of us to get a job, then get married and afterwards, bring kids to this world.

He told me that it will pass, like in his case, as it has only gotten better for him. He had been going through the same phase as I was, without a job and writing for entrance for his post graduation. There might have been times when his case was worse, as I always had some other things to do. He was like for this all the time, but never really achieved the good results for a very long time. He struggled real hard, and I have been the lazy one with my studies, even with my good scores.

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He told me that there is always the right time for the right thing, as it happened with him. After his marriage, he was going to go for the Doctor of Medicine, and his wife was also going to pursue the same. He made it clear that things did finally came right for him, and what you have to do was to keep trying. There was never going to be a substitute for hardwork, and he was another example for the same.

So, we had porotta and paneer butter masala at the nearby restaurant, talking a bit more about it, finishing the small meeting with a cup of tea each. It was a fine day which proved with ease that being #together is very important, and we all need our friends in our life. This was that little nudge that I needed to get back on track, and just like Housing.com, lets believe in the power of optimism which can be attained in one way or the other. Check this link for more details about Housing.com and how they can be helpful: https://housing.com/

***The images used in this blog are those of St George Basilica, Angamaly – another symbol of optimism for me. These two photos were taken by me on my Sony Cybershot DSC-W310 #together.

TeNy

Mili: An Introvert Queen

Mili is an upcoming movie about an unhappy girl, a not much loved Mili finding her way as she finds her path in a society which seems to have nothing for her. Disliked by her acquaintances and in her solitude, this introvert, a girl not loved or considered good for a company, will find direction and shall thrive. Our central character is a playschool teacher who chooses to be with children as the elder ones are always judgemental. Mili is not just another character, but one of the large number of people who are looked down upon for one reason. No, she is not a random nerd who changes when removing glasses. *These are only what I have figured out by reading about this movie.

Yes, that one reason should be for being an introvert, and what is derived from the same includes the inability to follow the society. There is the unruly world of hypocrites that we live in, which stops us from pursuing our dreams. Some people can say, that anyone can choose anything, but the real truth is that they can’t. Nobody can, in this world, and people who think so are also partial hypocrites. There are judges in the form of relatives who choose to be the Sword of Damocles and continue to be proud of being a bloody distraction.

The story of Mili should begin and end with everyone having a personality.

The story of Mili should begin and end with everyone having a distinct personality.

There is a path set by these people, and those who travel through that path, and those people who say better lies will always be adored. But those who speak the truth, and chooses to live in their own world are considered second or third grade people. What you need to succeed in this world is a tongue and the ability to lie like a river running wild. In the world of fake smiles, and when people consider money as the first thing in rating others, what can you expect?

So, what I expect from Mili is to have a Queen-like protagonist in a heroine-centric character, and this time, our heroine will not just stand for women. She will stand for everyone who suffer due the disgusting narrow-minded nonsense that is injected by the society in the name of behaviour and style of talking. She will lighten the solitude that comes a partial result of the same, and Mili will take over and destroy the visages of vanity that surrounds us – this is that bloody vanity that demands bones from us after we are dead.

This movie should be the support for not just one Mili, but many others to be themselves without being judged by the society, surrounded by the relatives who try to control her like a puppet. Everybody needs the right to have one’s own choices, and when that is denied, one fears even to become an introvert. But your extended family can be like a demon from the depths of Tartarus, as it is mindless in its brain and clueless in its actions. Do we have love? No, we have only the kind of people who find awesomeness in devil’s favourite sin, vanity. Any idiot can give dumb advice, but only good people can support someone in need.

Mili will always be Mili. If you don't like it, please go to the Ninth Circle of Hell.

Mili will always be Mili. If you don’t like it, please have a sojourn at the Ninth Circle of Hell.

Get a job, get a job; says the relatives. Why do you want to study more, they ask. Be like that person who makes a lot of money. But do they realize the fact that most of their so called awesome people went to have a job because they were too lazy to study, and most of them have already made it clear that they don’t want to learn anymore. Some of them actually had to choose this option to get away from you people. My question is why should someone stop learning at any moment?

You have given birth to a group of people who don’t value learning, but only wishes to make money; congratulations, society. You shall suffer due to the same, sooner or later – teach your children more and more materialism and no values because that it the only thing you can do. Don’t force them to be Icarus – for life is not all about flying to the Sun. Have you even noticed their wings and for what it suits? It is all about letting people be themselves and go through their chosen path with confidence.

Here is the trailer for the movie with English subtitles. I am in no hope that this movie will change the attitude of people towards introverts or those who prefer to be a little weird. I don’t believe that this can change the society in just one day. But I have faith that this can be the beginning of something good, and respectable. May be this marks the beginning of a trend which makes sure that people don’t choose to be the same, but have individuality and separate personality – may be this movie can help in making one less of a robot and more human.

Hoping to watch Mili and stay motivated! 🙂 Mili comes to you on January 2nd as one of the first movies of the year. I hope for a certain amount of awesomeness with The Queen Mili and wish this movie and its leading actors Amala Paul and Nivin Pauly all the best. Check the Wikipedia link of the same at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mili_(2015_film) and the official Facebook page of the movie at https://www.facebook.com/milimovieofficial (the images used in this blog post are from here). I leave you all with the link to its promotional song.

Please do not compare your children with anyone. Everyone is special and born to follow their dreams. If it gets delayed, it doesn’t mean that there is the immediate need to get a job and be married. It is just your selfishness that makes you feel so, especially when you have different laws for your own children and somebody else’s kids. Kindly stop being a hypocrite. PS: Everybody needn’t be an engineer or doctor and everyone doesn’t need an MBA as ornament. Thank you.

TeNy

A Question: Who’s Next?

The 2011 slasher movie You’re Next leaves one a message, and it is in no way having a redeemable quality considering the current situation. It talks about one quality that is gone, which is the power of blood relations and even those of romantic relationships. It pours acidic blood over all kinds of relationships and makes the viewers realize that chaos will come sooner or later and nobody can consider themselves free from it. You feel that you will see slasher horror with lots of blood and gore, but this movie is more than that as it reflects a consistently degenerating society that we live in.

It is a known fact that the current world is a quick one and possibly too fast for the traditional people. The new generation goes on trying to enjoy their life or to become successful so that they can enjoy life later, with a Carpe Diem attitude. Seize the day by hook or crook? The newly formed parents are also responsible for the same, asking their children to study and get a job rather than become a good person. This is why they ask every child go and choose science, because that makes more money. This concentration only on a future full of money leads to things such as what is depicted in this movie. Be aware that the next few paragraphs will have spoilers.

Sharni Vinson as Erin caught in the wrong family (screenshot from the movie)

Sharni Vinson as Erin caught in the wrong family (screenshot from the movie)

You’re Next is a home invasion movie. It has sons who hire murderers to kill their brothers, sisters and parents, plus even their lovers as they are attending a big family re-union. The whole point is about getting the family inheritance for themselves. Now, you can’t put the blame on movies or some wild imagination of the film maker who wanted to make this gory movie more disturbing, because you read such stuff every day in newspapers, like father murdering the son, daughter murdering the mother, son murdering both the parents, mother murdering her newborn child for eloping with her new-found lover and such things which marks presence.

Even as the increase in such incidents is the result of this age, the greed and jealousy has always got the better of the blood relations. In the Holy Bible, the first murder was committed by Cain on his brother Abel which proved such relationships incredibly weak. This makes one wonder if some people of this age are the descendents of that same man who committed that sin and the crime. They can surely ask that question, if they are their brother’s keepers. May be they do have the mark of Cain on them. Meanwhile Kauravas did the unjustifiable fought their cousins Pandavas fought against each other during another time.

That doesn’t end that so many years ago. With kings being overthrown by their sons, nephews, brothers or other relatives, the royal world itself has seen such cruelty done to the bloodlines. But how can they do the same in the modern world? Weren’t humans supposed to have gotten better? There are people whom I know who have told that the absence of religion has made people better and all problems are due to religion. But here, we see the exact opposite. In a modern world with less religion, there is no respect for elders or love for the fellow human beings. The only contribution is a Facebook post which should automatically save people.

You're Next has its big family re-union (screenshot from the movie)

You’re Next has its big family re-union (screenshot from the movie)

You’re Next has people being murdered in the most gruesome manner, and all that for the money. But we see that one person who is not part of the family chooses to care for them. This is where the rare goodness takes itself in, proving that relatives are not everything. We have brothers fighting over a will and partition in about seventy five percent of the households, at least half of them actually showing them in public. We have brothers and sisters filing cases against each other and even against their parents, sometimes taking the matter into their owns hands. It happens in movies, and when it happens in real life, its real worse.

Some people do pretend to value such relationships, but that is just plain acting. Some of them does the same to a certain someone to keep others away and a few others to gain something by love. There are a few others who stick to their blood relations to hate the relatives of their spouse, but then the question remains how they can love their wife and children in that case? How can someone just hate a person just because he is his or her spouse’s relative, in an attempt to make one’s own relatives seem superior? How can someone fight his or her own bloodline over money even when there is something to take for everyone in the family? Why doesn’t family come first any more rather than the word “me”? If things go like this, “You’re Next”.

TeNy