The Banana Pedagogy

There is something about the new generation parents. There is usually no time for everyone these days, and for the rest of them, there are just instructions. It is a busy world and they are caught in that web of timelessness which runs through modernity. They work as if the life is based on a book, and also comes with a list of things to do and not to do. Even with all their lack of experience and time, they feel that they could do good, but it is nowhere close to being true.

What we see is a reflection of the method of teaching which is used in the schools and colleges, to teach and to consider the receiver as the one to just hear and obey what all are told to them. But with this lack of experience and time, one has to wonder if parents of this age can really afford to do that. The education system itself is already messed up due to the same. The solution is to be the one to care, and establish that connection with the children just like how a teacher-student should work.

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In a world where teachers are chosen from an outdated BEd course or a ridiculous question paper which tests luck in the form of test supported by reservations based on caste, community and religion, the education level is already going down, and so the goodness has to begin at home. You can’t trust what is taught anymore, because it is just forced down your throats. You can’t be sure about how well your child undergoes the thing which is called education even though a better and more suitable name should be something else.

This is the time when anyone and everyone passes the State Board Exams with free A+ and also with all the available vanity, envy and avarice, as you can see flux boards everywhere shamelessly boasting about the same. I have known many kinds of boasting, but what we see here is boasting from the government about more students passing, and from those related to the students about the number of A+. It is a clear case of the lack of values and the reflection of the fact that A+ doesn’t give one a better standard.

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In this age when students don’t even get their text books at the right time, the parents’ support is more important than ever. You can’t trust the internet with the pedagogy, as you end up being a dumb student from IIN believing everything which is seen on internet remains true throughout life. Yes, everyone passes the tenth from the state without studying anything these days, compared to that struggle which the students had to go through at the time when our generation studied. But what do they gain?

The students are left with no values or even less wisdom and there is more chance of going the wrong path with inappropriate friends, and so buddy parents become very important in the present world of chaos. They have to make learning fun and make sure that their children don’t deviate from the path which is the best for them. It is more of a need rather than what is wanted. There are a few such responsible parents in the present world, and some children are born blessed.

A parent can easily help a child in building a fine vocabulary and improving the knowledge in history depending on the knowledge of the person. There are also chances in the basic science and Mathematics. Childhood should be fun as well as informative. It can’t be forced like some other things. Children got to grow up, and it has to happen well; for the same, the skills of the parents and the approach which they follow, become very significant. It is based on the childhood that the rest are built.

Also look out for ‘Khuljyaye Bachpan’ from Kellogg’s: https://www.facebook.com/mychocos

***The images used in this blog post are from the Official Facebook Page of Kellogg’s Chocos which can be accessed through the above link.

TeNy

Of Friends and Parents

We have friends and we have parents. Most of the times, they are too different from each other, and the gap will only increase with the rising difference between the thought procedures of people who belong to different ages. Kids talk differently to friends and parents, and it is needed considering the respect factor – but if if is too different, things change. Children say too many lies to their parents, and for some, friends are more significant part of their lives.

If we know any youngster well enough, we can understand how much they lie to their parents each and every day. Most of my friends used to tell me to inform that they are at my home if their mother or father called. But nobody really called me anyway, and that was a relief. The new generation wishes to lead the Carpe Diem way of life which means that they have to lie to their parents who instructs them to lead a certain kind of life.

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The problem with the new generation kids is that they think that they know a lot, and with the early relationship with the computer and mobile phone, they do know quite much. The parents are often proud of the same, but they can’t really accept the fact that the children is living life their own way and not listening to what they have to say. So, the distance between the parents and the children are further than it used to be a few years ago.

The children and the parents are mostly in two different worlds these days, or rather living in two planets which are so distant from each other. Unless the parents go into the world of the children, there can be not that much love for each other as it used to be. It is not easy to make the new generation children agree to your viewpoints, and for the same, the attention has to be given in an early age itself.

There are good number of little children belonging to my cousins – there are many of them, and a lot of them on the way. They have all been different in one way or the other, but in their attitude towards the elders, there is very less difference. It is what the modern age has provided us with, and it is what the parents should care about. Disobedience will only rise further if we become authoritative to them, as they will not like it.

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This is not something that have come across for no reason, but something that has been developed through ages. Neither the father or the mother has time for the children; earlier only one of them used to work – usually it is only the male who works or otherwise it is the female who is the earning person (especially in the cases of nurses in foreign countries); there were also the grandparents who helped with the same.

But unfortunately for now, none of these people have time. It is as if the time has been taken away all of a sudden and things have become too complicated. The children of this age requires bonding more than ever, and it is up-to the parents to do a good job being a friend and guide rather than the big authoritative figure. Children have to be taught with love and not with fear. Yes, one has to be strict, but not as a figure of horror. It has to be about “buddy parenting”.

Lets think more about the same and have some Chocos: https://www.facebook.com/mychocos

***The images used in this blog post are from the Official Facebook Page of Hotel Transylvania.

TeNy

Presence and Absence of Hug

The season of the mother’s day is over, and this is time period calls for the other parent. As time has passed after the day for the loving mother, one can recollect that it was one of the more popular times of contests and there was a lot of sharing related to mother on Facebook and Twitter. It is certain that a lot of hugs were received by mothers all around the world. A hug is the best gift you can give your dad too on this father’s day.

It is one’s duty to be thankful to the parents, and every religion has a provision for being respectful and loving towards parents – no matter how much the world has advanced, and up-to what extent the modernity, competition and the brutality of science and technology have taken over, the relationship remains the same in its core. Indian culture has had a great place for the same, and it remains one of the most beautiful things.

There would be many reasons for hugging one’s father, and I am sure that there will be some in my life too even if not too many, but the one big reason about which I want to talk about here is of a lot of significance. The reason is actually the absence of the result itself. It is simple – there was never a hug, not one which I can remember about. It is a case of the complete absence of the hug. It is the prolonged absence of something which creates the desire for that thing, right? So it is the lack of presence of the hug.

Yes, it was missing and no notice could find it. I used to search for it a lot during my childhood days, but neve really found it. Mom had tried a lot to find it for me, but as time passed, I have refused its strength all together; I kept saying, no hugs and not touching. I apologize to Munna Bhai on this – there have been no “Jadoo Ki Jhappi”; no magic there. Circuit might not like that either, but that is the truth.

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As I grew up, I used to wonder why people hug, until I watched Munnabhai MBBS. It became further clear at that time, but that never really explained why I should give anybody a hug. I have remained hug-free even though I haven’t really boasted about that. I have often wondered how I would have managed not to hug if I had ever been a tennis player – it would have been declared an act of shame and also disrespectful to fellow players by some fans.

Well, dad has been hug-free for quite a long time too, and that is a relief. If he was hugging someone else, that would made me wonder why I didn’t do that yet. I wanted to do a hug when I get a job, but that doesn’t seem to be happening in this birth. I wanted to do that on the day of my wedding, but that seems to be too far away a thing in life. Then there is the father’s day which remains the last hope.

A hug will be a nice option for this father’s day, especially for us jobless people who are in no position to buy something for the parents. Yes, there is hope in those contest wins, but we can’t really have the vanity to think that we will win them all, right? Not even with the First Come First Serve basis with such a slow and miserable internet connection. I would say that a hug is a nice option for me – and there is also some variety associated with it 😀 #HugYourDad

This father’s day, I am expressing my love towards my dad by participating in the #HugYourDad activity at BlogAdda in association with Vicks.

***The image used in this blog post is from the page of activity itself.

TeNy