Of those Happy Moments

The moments of happiness are mostly subjective. The things which can make one happy needn’t apply to others with the same power, or they might not apply at all. There are moments of passing examinations which brings a few people some happiness, but for me, it is just a case of relief. Some people are happy about seeing celebrities, but for me, it is just an experience. Some others are happy because India won a cricket match, but for me, it is a game and can only applaud. But I have my simpler moments.

A cup of tea at the Indian Coffee House: Having tea at one of the branches of he biggest group of family restaurants in Kerala has always been a moment of joy. When I was a kid, it always made me happy to see the workers with the special hats and turbans. The group is more of a socialist organization, and the tea here has been part of my life for such a long time. Wherever you travel in Kerala, Indian Coffee House is the name which you can trust, related to having food without any worries, and you can find ICH at many locations.

A drive through empty roads during the monsoon: I have always hated the heavy traffic and the heat which has prevented me from opening the windows and switching off the AC. My favourite moment of driving the Chevrolet Beat comes during the monsoon showers, as the rain keeps pouring down and I keep driving, opening and closing the windows according to the strength of the rain – I would keep driving through the most beautiful landscapes of Kerala until a tiny tea shop of my choice is reached.

An early morning motor-bike ride: Here is the most common thing in this list, I have been doing this for quite a long time. This early morning journey is one of the most refreshing things of the day, and these days as I go for early PSC coaching classes, the whole thing gets easier. There is no happiness in the return journey, as it happens after 10AM, which is too late – but happiness is achieved in the earlier journey which makes sure that the day remains good; yes, I am the one who wakes up early.

Watching the foggy world from the top of a mountain: When I talk about this moment of happiness, the first thing that comes to my mind is Ilaveezhapoonchira which has some of those moments closest to nature, with a lone tea shop at the top. It is applicable to many other places of higher altitude, but you need to visit this place, see the fog spread all around you and get lost in the moment of awesomeness. This is another beautiful destination in Kerala on which I have already written about.

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Reading history or literature in an old building: There is a certain amount of difference about where you read a book, and this where I wish to read my books. It is more of happiness when you read them at a place where history stays ready to be awakened, and reflects the beauty of literature on the walls. Yes, there is a cup of tea to go together with this, and you end up reading the book with more interest, and finish off as an even happier person.

The sadness is when you can’t get tea when you need them, and when there is no nature when you look around. Fortunately, Kerala has a lot of both of these, and not many other things bring this much happiness as tea and nature – it gets better with the rain or the fog, and a few books can nicely contribute to the same. Unfortunately, except for the third one in the middle, none of the others have worked for me for some time – hoping for those moments of happiness to make a return.

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TeNy

No More Lies Needed

How can you justify a lie? Yes, there can be many reasons for that. Some people say that it was not really a lie, but somewhat the truth. But lets think about it. Lord Alfred Tennyson has given some idea about the same in his poem, The Grandmother – “That a lie which is half a truth is ever the blackest of lies”. You can add enough ornaments to the lies and make it sound sweet or like truth, but no, that doesn’t justify anything. A lie is a lie, no matter if it comes dressed in gold, silver, pearls or diamonds. There are no sweet lies, and there are no true lies. When you add something to it and make it more believable or lovable, it is another step towards cheating.

This takes me years back, when I was striving to get my driving license, something which I wished to achieve immediately after I turned eighteen. I have had good balance for the two-wheeler and I was driving the car just okay enough. So, I thought that may be I will struggle with the four-wheeler license, but for the two-wheeler, I am surely getting that with ease. For some reason, what happened there was the other way around. I went through the “H” hurdle easily in the Maruti 800, but touched my left leg’s fingers on the ground when taking “8” on that Bajaj M80 which looked like the first two-wheeler on Earth.

I came back from the spot to see that nobody was looking. There was something going on outside the ground and people were busy staring towards that direction. So, nobody knows that my legs touched the ground. But those who studied driving with me had seen.

My first two-wheeler - TVS Centra. Didn't help much in the 8 chase though :D

My first two-wheeler – the TVS Centra. Didn’t help much in the 8 chase though šŸ˜€

“It is okay. Nobody knows that your feet touched the ground. Just tell him that you completed it perfectly” one of them said.

“Yes, just don’t tell him that there was any contact with the ground” another one said.

“It can happen to anyone. There is nothing special in saying so” the next one said.

“But the fact remains that I did touch the ground” I said.

My instructor joined the conversation with a man from another driving school, as they came back from whatever was going on outside the ground.

“Listen to the other students. You were always supposed to get the license. I have seen you drive. There is nothing wrong with that. If this happened with the car, that would have been more of a concern. But I have never seen you make one wrong move with the two-wheeler. You can do this with so much ease even in your sleep. Didn’t you see that girl who had to hit the tree to stop the vehicle? That is the kind of driving that deserves no license. This is your first and it is because of the anxiety. It happens. Just tell that you completed the 8 without the feet touching the ground” he said.

“But what is the point of getting the driving license if I haven’t actually qualified?” I asked.

“It is all about being good enough to drive. Nobody is going to ask you to take an 8 on the centre of the road. Actually it is something that you should never do. If you say you touched the ground, you will have to come here on another day after giving the application again. Do you want to do that?” he asked.

“Yes, I would like to get the license when I qualify. If I can’t do this right, I don’t deserve to have a license. I shall come again” I said.

“Okay, go ahead then. It is your choice if you want to try again” he said.

So, I went to the officer and told him that my legs touched the ground once, and I didn’t do it as good as I had expected. He seemed to have a sense of disbelief in his eyes, and told me that it happens to everybody, asking me to make a try on the next date possible with confidence, as it was not a big deal. I came back two week later to claim my two-wheeler license, and it was a quick and steady process.

Part of my license - the two-wheeler authorization added later.

Part of my driving license – the two-wheeler authorization, as you see, was added later.

These days, when I drive, I have had a great amount of confidence with the two-wheelers, something which I never had with the four-wheelers. It is because I got it fair, while with the car, I just did what I was taught to do, as any surprise could have completely taken me off the plans. If I had got the driving license the very first time by lying, I wouldn’t have been this confident. When you choose to tell the truth instead of the lie, even as lying can make things easier and better, there is a satisfaction, and this is something that you can carry on with confidence.

I know that this world will find it difficult to follow the path of truth. I have my own relatives who keep telling the stories of their own or of their sons or daughters who had told lies to overcome a situation and made people fools. They say it as if it is some kind of achievement and these were signs of smartness. They were better than others because they could lie better. They deserved applause because they could handle other people in the wrong manner. Is this the kind of example that we set for the new generation? Isn’t this the main reason for the new generation losing their values?

There is a movie called Philips and the Monkeypen from last year in which there is a conversation between the father and the son – about truth not being bitter, and there is such a feeling of bitterness because lies are just too sweet. Yes, we do get the feeling that lies can get us achieve more. But I wonder what they can gain by achieving all the things in the world if they lose their soul? It will be a permanent mark on their conscience and one day, it can come back to haunt them. Every religion speaks against the lies, from the Ten Commandments to the Noble Eightfold Path.

This blog post was written in association with the Happy Hours campaign “Kitna chain hota hai na sachchai mein” from Kinley in association with Indiblogger. Do spare some time watch the video below, as this campaign from the company shows the significance of being honest and tells us to be dauntless and confident in speaking the truth, no matter how much we are afraid about the same. Remember the old saying “Honesty is the best policy”. Here is one girl showing the right example in Kinley 2014 TVC:

Let there be “Boond Boond Mein Sacchai” in our society, and not the dark lies of selfish motive šŸ™‚ *The images used in this blog post are mine (photos taken by me on my camera), of course.

TeNy