There is something about the weddings these days. It used to be a scene of respected union which the society had approved. But that has changed a lot. Nowadays, it has become a place to show one’s vanity and show-off. They used to be moments when friends and relatives genuinely attended the function and wished happiness for the bride and groom. Wedding function used to support marriages at some time, but now it is a place to show how much money you have, and there is also a certain amount of buffoonery associated with it.
This is the age of couples who keep talking to each other through Facebook despite being in the same room, but that is the subject for another blog post in detail. There are the kind of people who we know in real life, and on Facebook, they are like the best couple ever, posting sweet comments about each other and the Facebook community is like grading them with a hundred out of hundred. Well, they are the product of weddings like these. They are good at projecting this fake image of happiness, and we might never even know if they have divorced.
Here, the beginning of this nonsense starts with the pre-marital course. This weird thing had never existed at a time long ago when our parents had decided to stay with each other forever. Well, now this has started for no reason, and will force people to attend, because these common men and women can’t know anything good of their own, and they need guidance about this simple thing. So do the divorces decrease? Absolutely not. This is only the reflection of the thoughts of some people which say that everyone is terrible and are not fit to get married.
Well, as we have already established that people can’t have love for the better half by their own, and only by listening to the talks of some random person can someone be good to their wives/husbands in a class room, the next procedure comes easily. After all, a wedding is the awesome way to waste your money. I wonder why they don’t stop these people from doing this terrible wastage of money during that pre-marital course – the first thing to be taught should be to marry for yourselves, not for the public – are the things not that simple?
The show-off starts with the car itself. Why do you want to rent a big car for wedding when you have a car for yourself? It is a lie in itself, isn’t it? Yes, you can ask for the cars of your friends and relatives, but why is it so significant to arrive inside a big car? Does a Jaguar make someone a better person? Is it a sign of better marriage, and do you live like jaguars during your life time? Is it how the fake fairy tale begins? I remember one of my friends in college; during her marriage, she made the choice to go for her own Maruti Suzuki Ritz – she could have chosen any bigger car; but she chose her own. But it is a rare case.
I do not like the clothing which is too costly, but it is still the case of wedding, and people will need it. Yes, people will want to look good on the day, and this comes with the hope that one doesn’t need to marry again. So, it is okay to look stylish, but then too, do not take those ridiculous photos wearing sunglasses and showing buffoonery, not because you want it and not because some weird photographer is asking you to. Show some dignity with the function. When you are wearing fine clothing, behave with dignity. You are not marrying for the photographers – please note the point. Always know the photographer you choose.
Also stop being a gold showroom. Wedding should never be about gold and money. Then there is the food. If someone wishes to have more food items, let him or her go to a bloody restaurant. This is your wedding function meant to be attended by people who care. If someone doesn’t, they can just leave. I remember reading the news that actress Rima Kallingal and director Aashiq Abu had celebrated their wedding by donating money (photo shared above) – the point here is that wasting money on a wedding is not something that can be related to love. Look for a wedding with goodness, and not extravagance.
***The image used in this blog post is from the following article on which credits are clearly shown (http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Kochi/celebrating-their-wedding-with-charity/article5301931.ece)
TeNy
Absolutely agree with you, some people give gold to even distant relatives these days…what a waste of money (i wish they gave a part of it to poor!)
It is more of show-off in every aspect these days…i know of a lady who bought 100 Sarees just to show them off on Facebook every day 😦
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🙂 I hope that the priests in every religion take the necessary steps to make something happen so that this wastage can be somewhat prevented.
Giving food to a few orphanages and old age homes one or two times a day will get one better blessings.
Some of the functions have so many types of meat, fish and a wide variety of vegetarian curries – I wonder why so much!
100 sarees? The gold in that case should be scary!
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I also know of someone who had almost all types of pastries during wedding – for what, i imagine!
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I have often wondered if this is meant to shift the focus from the bride and the groom to the food 😀 Sometimes, people don’t care who gets married when they see the food 😀
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Include me also in this herd, if the food is too good (not a wastage though) 🙂
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Well, one day we should call it the big food party in which someone is getting married 😀
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Haha, and anybody could be getting married…we give it a damn 😀
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😀 🙂
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Would that people would see sense in this?! 🙂
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People won’t care! 😦
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exactly!!!!
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The show off thing that has been been a part and parcel of the marriage practices. How does it help anybody is a different question.
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May be to keep talking about it. But I wonder how others are interested in hearing it all the time! It won’t stay for long na.
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I find it irritating , don’t know about others Teny. 🙂
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They won’t mind if someone wants to listen, I guess 🙂
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Yes That’s what they bank on !
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I very well agree to this Teny. People have forgotten social ethics and morality and simply indulge in ostentatiousness. Sometimes, I don’t understand what would one get out of proving oneself superior to the others in materialistic fronts! 😦
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Thanks 🙂
Yes, people think that they can create a better opinion of themselves just by money, vanity and lies and not by being good at heart – it is a dangerous trend 😦
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This is really a lovely example Tennyson. I was thinking of the weddings and the insane splendor involved and most times it makes me wonder who it is actually about – the status of the families or the people actually getting married!!
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Thank you 🙂 I have noticed the preparations and often wondered if I should go back there to attend the real function!
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Real projection of the society. I guess, simplicity is a long forgotten word and not just the weddings, but you find the flaunting business almost everywhere.
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Yes, it has gone missing! It is unfortunate 😦
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No wonder why I fear attending Indian weddings :p Very well described…
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Along with people saying “you are next” 😀
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